The best friends & The lovers

And here's a long one..

This is the story of two bitter sweet friends or may be enemies, we can decide once read it full. Story of friendship and relationship. How many a times have't we heard two people in love through common friend. But more often we hear friends falling apart because their relationships.This post is also a story of Judy and Jane, two loveliest girls and best-est friends. So close that nothing could separate them till Jane fell in love. :)

"So, what the fu*k, I was here first" Said Friendship to Relationship. "Yes, I know. But I am gonna last forever while you shall go away with time." said Relationship. "True! Time and distance hasn't spared anyone, would it ever spare friendship", thought Friendship and kept mum.

Her new found love,  wouldn't let Jane have her feet on ground. So much of happiness, that she was totally in love with being in love. Of all the things she enjoyed the most was narrating to Judy, the experience of those little butterflies in stomach, the feeling of blush, the feeling of pampering and being pampered. Judy heard them all in deep appreciation or may be silence. Though most of things they talked about surrounded around Jane's love, as long as they were talking Judy was okay!

"See, it is me who make those feelings turn to experiences, through sharing", said Friendship. "But How long would you? I am the source of  the most beautiful feeling  world have had", said Relationship and  turned away.

Jane started spending more time with her love. Judy, strong enough to deny that she was feeling lonely, kept waiting for days when Jane would come back through that door and spend hours talking.

 Relationship Laughed. Friendship held its end of faith. 


Love took it's course. The door opened today, Jane came in, but to Judy's dismay, she was crying all over. She had a fight with her love and things seemed so unclear. Love seemed to end but Judy made her think till the clarity dawned. Jane reconciled with love and Judy made it happen.


Friendship was proud. "So, you were gonna last! huh! I made you last.", it said.  Relationship was dumbfound! The pride was shared with fear though, fear of losing it all again. 

Grateful Jane showered Judy with all the love. Judy wasn't listening today though. She was lost, lost in thoughts, lost in love! No, not Jane's love, some one else's. It took only a moment for Jane to realize. They shared the tightest hug. So, now it was Jane's turn to feel miserable.

Hahaha..Laughed Relationship again as Friendship cried in pain.

But, something unexpected happened. Jane's relationship and her alleged enemy of friendship,Jane's love came to her rescue. He filled every vacuum of Judy. He made Jane bypass the circle of longing pain, love made her understand Judy. Love made space for their friendship and made it all the more important.

Jane and Judy went back to being the best-est friends they ever were added with more flavor of understanding. and their relationships intact ;)


Friendship: So, huh! We were made..
Relationship: ..to complement each other..I guess so dude!
Friendship: Not enemies..So all this time we were the essence of each other..
Relationship: I know!! We actually helped each other exist..oh! dear god! We wanted to cross each other's path when we were supposed to walk together! Sigh!
Friendship: Well...
Relationship: well?!
Friendship: I love you
Relationship: I love you, too


Saraswati Chandra

Of one Bride and 19 Bridesmaids

Me: I wanna be an official sky-diver. I realized today, this what I have always wanted to do, my passion
P1: (Erm! scratching head)Cooooool! Go Ahead Man!
Me: (With Hands wide up in the air) If I put HUGE mirrors on earth, we can reflect sunlight at Night, then we wont need electricity
P2: (devastated) When will we sleep?!?! (realizing) how much does daylight matter!!
Me: I ll kill poor people and end poverty. Then I ll be THE AWESOME! 
P4: (faints)


Me: I have an awesome idea!!
P3: Really! I have a brilliant idea too!! (Awww!!)


I found my dream guy! The best opposite that could ever be. I was THE Awesome, he-A Awesome (A and THE are opposites, right?!  so, we complement ;) ). A super romantic end to a hard loved college life, a lovely wedding ahead..

BUT..Ever heard of the term bridesmaids. Yeah, yeah! the lovely ladies who get to have the dress, the make-up, the guy and all the attention without actually having to get married!!  Okay, dont scream now, I know that the lovely three ladies help the bride. Only that I had NINETEEN of them. (Halwaa).

Today, I had to break the news about the wedding. The butterflies had already started their job in my stomach. I dont know, what scared me. I wasnt looking for their approval but then I wanted them all to approve it. I wasn't scared of the jokes they would crack but then I didnt wantthem to do it,not today. I wasn't expecting them to cry of happiness but then I wanted to see them smile with love, happiness and contentment. Baah! May be I was thinking too much..Being in love does that to you :P

(confused, confident, happy but pale) I told them. Okay, I mailed.( It doesnt matter, in Halwaa we dont care, promise!)

1min, 2min, 3 min, and there came in the first mail ''congratulations'' , followed by more "I am happy for you" and then some more of them. Hmm, neat, phew! that was so easy. Turns out I WAS thinking too much. But something was missing. ( "But then you wanted them to be courteous and well mannered", I told myself). I kept staring at my screen, refreshing my inbox.

1 Hour passed : There they were, the mails, screaming out from my inbox

"I ll do the make-up"
"I am doing the shopping"
"I am the  maid of honour, I was her depmate"
"No way...I am the maid of her of honour, I was her roommate"
"How could you forget, I am the hairstylist"
"I want the attention, I want to wear the MOST different colour"
"We will make everyone dance, choose the song"
''Aww. You know Nathan Haley (One tree Hill) also married right after college..We support you"
"Dare anyone miss it"
And so on ........it went and is going on...!   - (adi HALWAA ante, asala roopam)


:)..Now I had a smile form ear to ear..I switched off my PC and slept in peace.Relieved.Telling myself "God! what the hell was I thinking. It was so simple, it's Halwaa, it US. " Unlimited was the excitement and unconditional was the support.

Yes, one groom, NINETEEN bridesmaids  and the lucky and AWESOME bride, me! :P
You are invited and I sure shall keep you posted on how many fell for them and how many hearts they broke, on my wedding day!! Hopefully you shall get to see some of my pictures! I shall guide you on how to locate the bride! :D

Saraswati  (P.S. Not my wedding! ;))

Mumbaii!

The New York of India

City of dreams, city of Bollywood, a city always awake, a city whose spirit never dies, India's New York and so much I had heard about it that I was in love with it even before I met it. 

This weekend this long cherished dream came true! As I close my eyes and 

Museum

think about the buzzing city with it's calm companion (the sea), the energy still fills me up and a smile of freshness comes over. A realization of where writer get their motivation from. Closest encounter with everything that life has put on your table. It is so close to what they show in movies, so close. Be it the joggers park at Nariman Point where the old begin their day or the evening Sunset at Chowpatty where the young love finds peace, the fashion street where everything sells or the Sensex tower which decides what will sell, The Haji Ali Dargah where Hindus and Muslims are almost equal in number or The  Prince Wales museum which takes you by its history irrespective of age. I loved it, loved every moment of it.

Gateway of India & Taj

The Gateway of India, the long ferry into the sea, the magnificent Taj and Red&yellow cab. One of the first few cities I felt I was very familiar with. It never felt new, never felt like it was the first time. Wondered if it was indeed the magic of the City or because they said it all in movies.

Sunset at Haji Ali

Saraswati :) 

And Still we hear it.....

As promised, I have the saaga of the Caste System, for us.

Its been two days here and it has left me high and dry. I am not drawing any conclusions here about our country but merely sharing an experience, just an exxperience..

                                                

Not that we were never aware of this problem before but seeing it being practiced hard to the core is wonder and amazement in itself. Our first encounter. A degree college Brahmin "professor". His analogy"Just like each there are good and bad varieties of seeds of rice , so are humans". Wonder what is he teaching at his college.

The small village of Barpar is divided into four sects separated by wide roads,crossroads, the muslim area, the harijans, the SC/STs and the Brahmins. While Gorakhpur as a city sees so much of development, women wearing jeans and shorts, Barpar have Muslim women who havent crossed there area of their tribe ,forget going beyond barpar. If brahmins, they havent crossed the boundaries of their homes, thanks to our very old Pardas System.THEY ARE LIVING IN A RADIUS OF 200 M. 

Hell yeah! the good part is the Sarpanch tenure is rotated among these SC/ST/RELIGIONS/TRIBES. It has it's own pros and cons. Too late to get in that debate for the it keeps the people in harmony and secularism. That's what we are, aren't we, a secular state.

Saraswati

Not 60 Years Back!

A series of posts, for you and for me. My experiences at one of the smallest and oldest villages of India, Barpar, an India away from India, in the corner of Uttar Pradesh, tells it's own story. A living history of the country. Something I thought ceased to exist is in life and form, Barpar.

  In parts. here is the first one-

Ah! the Saaga of Caste System. Yes, there is a lot to write on this but a small part of this brutal system, which deserves a special mention. A story that shook away the pride of everything.

Moosahar -heard the name before?!. It is a tribe of people who kill the rats -which gather in the rice field after harvesting- to eat them. Yes it is true! And there are 10 lakh of such people in India. One such village was were we had been to today. Till an year back they hadnt heard of electricity ..Not that they had very frequent power cuts.. no no..THEY HADNT HEARD OF POWER AT HOMES..Reason-they are the untouchables of the village, not to be talked to.

Thanks to an OLD couple who adopted that part of the country, opened a school there. The couple say "till last year students from higher caste wont sit with them, share lunch box/eat beside them nor play with them. But now with education, the divide is decreasing. They go to each other's place and play. This recieved a wide criticism from the higher communities around. They said if you educate them who will do the labour job, but we were persitent and we see the change.  It is little but it is there." 

This community is known for making beautiful woven baskets, which are sold in cities at prices much higher than they are bought at. Poverty struck them so hard that a father charged money from her daughter to drop to her hospital for tuberclosis treatment.

She died! Because she couldnt visit the doctor the next time! Because

she didnt pay him the last time and he didnt take her the next time! They exist! They all do. Very much in our own world having a world of their own!

Saraswati

Unsaid...

I would never tell you how my day was
Coz I just heard you laughing
you telling about the best part of the day
and gaily singing

I would never tell you how my day was
Coz I realized you had a bad one
You wanted to share and submit
And I was the one

I would never tell you how my day was
Because to day you were already bored
We had to spice up life
hit the dance floor

I would never tell you how my day was
as I realized that as part of it
I hurt you too
You were angry
We had to sort it

I would never tell you
Coz today we together again and happy
I lost words I had to say
And now the unsaid felt unnecessary
for US.

M- the girly girl

It's always a wonder how we meet few people who fit in just perfectly in our life....how we see them transform over the years together..and how just one incidence proves it "oh! they haven't changed a bit- the originals".....

M, ever since we knew her, the tomboy...Over these years she grew hair,  changed her wardrobe..OMG! were seeing the other side of the coin.
Now for her ------

 Beauty is Important -- had an eye on every girl at SF ;)

Gestures and mannerisms Matter-- legs up hands down :P

Tight fittings are Necessay -- for her circuit boards

Size 0 workouts a must-- for simulation working time

Aesthetics create Impression -- of PPTs

Money is for SPENDING-- on ICs & Xeroxes & Print outs & ....

Must and should try out every outlet till she finds the exact   -- Upma (or any other food that is on mind)

The American Cute Guy at KTj exhibition seemed to make an impression, he was actually stammering when he saw her And she was all over trying to talk to him and then he looked here and there nervously and finally said to her ,confessed --"I have NO idea about that technology"...


Talkative -- I give this to her, she IS indeed.. ;)


Never the less M became girly and I guess we are glad about it. ;)

Saras

P.S. Her technology did pay off though..two hefty cash prizes at technology competitions. \m/
M rocks :)